#downwithstereotypes

https://youtu.be/WEFJnYMz0Ec

" i can swear
i can joke
i say what's on my mind"

"sometimes it's hard for me to show"



i know this song talks mostly on how most people see that it is inappropriate and or unlikely for a girl to smoke and get drunk and randomly make out with someone et cetera lalala

but i see this song as something more than that

despite all the swearing, i really relate to this song because i feel that, as a girl, i have to live up to these certain expectations, because i'm a girl.

a girl don't usually spends time alone; she's always with a group of friends. she gets emotional when it comes to goodbyes, and she values anything that has to do with friendship very much.

a girl wears makeup, a part of her relies on artificial beauty to tell people visually just how valuable she is.

a girl is usually soft. they're tender and kind. some people think that girls are not supposed to erupt in loud fits of laughter, especially in public. for men it's okay, for women it's not.

a girl usually gets married. around 26 or somewhere around that number a lot of people are highly expecting you to prepare for marriage/ be engaged/ at least have a boyfriend. and even some of them would go a little extra and introduce you to some single guy they know around that age and hopefully you guys know each other better and get married afterwards (yes people your intentions are that obvious. and have you ever think that those intentions might have come off as hurtful? is a girl really that desperate for marriage?)

what if i don't try to fulfill some of these standards?

what if i like my job more than i like my friends?

what if i'd rather spend time alone doing the things that i like at home, rather than going to some fancy restaurant having a fancy brunch with a group of friends?

what if i don't get emotional when it comes to goodbye?

what if i don't want to settle down in a house with babies hanging on my chest? what if i want success more than i want love?

what if i despise applying makeup? why is it so hard for me to feel good without it at a party? i don't like using it because i fear that my confidence will rely on makeup, that's why i don't want to use it to go to church, or attend a party. but if i don't use it, then i will be a disappointment to certain people. damn it's hard to be yourself without trying to please people. they'll always make you feel unsure of yourself for being peculiar, and that is depressing.

what if i'm not soft, tender and kind? what if i'm loud? what if i'm bold, strong-headed, and obnoxious? what if i cannot be silenced and i demand that i have the right to speak up my mind and do what i can do to erase the world's way of thinking of what a girl should and shouldn't do?

does that makes me less of a girl?

Parallel World

II.

SCREENS

(who knew writing can take your mind off of things #surpisinglygood)

Utterly 

Completely

Bewildered

⧪

Where I live in

Sometimes "whatever" means "no"

"go away" means "stay"

Saying "fine"

Whilst holding tears from falling

Saying "okay"

When it's just

Not

⧪

Be kind

Be loving

Be corteous

And when nobody's looking

Curse them

Whisper dirty secrets

Raise your middle finger

Anything you hate

All the things you despise

Let it out

Let it all out

Just don't show them

Just don't

⧪

"Good night"

"Good morning"

"Hello"

Everytime

That's what I heard

That's what I thought

Where were you in person?

Heaven's sake

Are you even real?

This mask you're wearing
It's really captivating

I love your mask
But I don't know you

#imjustsayin

I.

SAD,SAD TRUTH

hi i'm back

why? because i got another assignment to post 4 more blogs that's why

what am i going to talk about in 4 blogs? yea i"m not so sure what to...

But recently now I've taken interest in reading articles; a bit of this and that of what's going on in the world and other stuffs like that. And luckily, there are so many things going on. Or should I say, many fights going on.

Sure you guys must know about this, well, that is, if you're not some kind of freak who can stand being cooped up in a room reading school books. Well yeah, school is important, but so is knowing what's going on in this world. I mean, who wants to feel like they don't know where and what's going on in the world that we're living? I used to feel that way, I used to obey what people say; do your studies and get them right. Study study study. So boring. You don't have anything to be concern about because you're too focus on memorizing equations and stuff. I regret obeying, and I'm grateful to be a bit rebellious.

At least by being a rebel which leads to corrupting a bit of study time I know a thing or two about the things that are actually going on and about. Lately, the most talked about stuff is the US presidential election. Cosmopolitan, Buzzfeed, CNN, like, almost every single reporting media is keeping track of all the insights in this year's presidential race. For someone who just started reading news, this is crazy (good crazy). Some of the articles focus on laws and stuff, and others write about the juicy stuff (I read the juicy stuffs). Apparently I just like knowing stuff that's not realy necessary, but is actually necessary (Yes I do not know what I just said) Moving on.

Okay, so during the presidential race, all I have seen is mostly about Trump. And believe me, i didn't intentionally type "Trump" as a search key word or whatever, I just clicked a media open and Trump was the headline. And the reports are mostly negative; there's one about him sexually harassing 11 women throughout his life (from the plane to the golf field). Wow, it's as if he had this huge bucket list to "do" women in every location. And then there's him talking bad stuff about immigrants, which is reported to offend many immigrants, especially the Latinas. There's another report expressing sympathy towards her daughter, Ivanka (who is, well as far as I read, better than Trump in some ways, I don't know, I don't read much, if I extend my reading time my grades could go from bad to worse and I'm not taking any chances...especially biology, my biology grades are screwed up as (fudge)<-- #censored)

Yeah, so to keep it short, Trump is looking pretty bad, and he's only get his own attitude to blame how a lot of people see him negatively, the reporting media is only doing its job recording and reporting, and I'm pretty sure they're not adding anything and making Trump looked even worse. There are hundreds of news reporting negativity about Trump, and the distribution of false news is against the law. If every single negativity about Trump is a fake report, then all these reporting medias could get shut down. If that's true, then that is hillarious, I can like, imagine all these workers for Buzzfeed, Times, CNN, and others sitting in a huge room and agreeing like, "Hey! Let's all make this bad false stuff about Trump and get shut down together"

What about me? Am I against him? Do I feel offended? Do I not accept him, especially him just winning the election a few weeks ago. Hahaha, well...nah, can't say much, I'm not always keeping track throughout the election 24/7 anyways.

BUT

From every piece of article that I read (and do I have to say, legit articles) I think that it is normal for a mass of people to be against Trump. I mean he is too harsh for a lot of people's acceptance. Personally, I don't like the way he called a woman a pig. I think a woman is much more than a pig, much more than a "guy's toy". A woman is much more than a pretty face.

Then again, if I think of it, most women just like "selling" that pretty makeup-caked face, that coke-bottled body (whatever you call it), that "girl" behavior. The "selling" is just so dominant that it covers up all the other, and more valuable qualities of a women like intelligence, leadership, generosity, and so much more.

I know that sometimes a woman have to act like a lady (courteously and full of etiquette and all that blah-blah-blah), and get dressed up, get some makeup on.

But in my opinion women have taken the matters of appearance way, like, WAY too far. And, I feel sorry to say this, but, us being too concern on how we look and how we want people to think of us, kinda dragged people to focus on the fact that women are pretty, women are always dressed up.

And because of that, the fact that women CAN be intelligent, fierce leaders, the fact that we CAN look just as badass in a tie and a pantsuit with no makeup and our hair cut short, the fact that women CAN live a life without a man and not get worried about not getting married. ALL those facts, they are forgotten, and that's probably why men always seem to have "a higher position" than us in all kinds of aspects.

So here I am, astonished on my own rant, because I never thought I could jump from talking about Trump to women in 20 minutes or so. And now I don't know how to end this article. Yes I do want to end this article, it's long enough.

I do have something to say in mind about the last few paragraphs written so I'll just go with it spontaneously...

Dear woman,
Dress aproppriately, don't put too much makeup, love your body, you look good in a suit, wear clothes that make you comfortable, it's okay not to be sad to not want to end up being a housewife, it's okay not to be sad to not have a child, it's okay to not feel lonely when you're alone ( I mean guys usually wander off alone and some of them are thought as mysterious and cool) You don't have to feel like you need a whole bunch of people and walk clumsily together like a pack of drunk wolves, if you feel good to be all by yourself while curling up in a good book or anything like that, DON'T let people take your happiness away.

Dear woman, you deserve to be happy, happy of your hobby, happy of your future hopes for yourself, and if that happiness of yours does not apply to the happiness of most women, keep your head up. And if they tell you that you're very full of yourself for doing that, don't let them get to you. That's just the way of the world. The world made several boxes to segregate types of people, so it wil be easier to recognize who is who. So many people have jumped into these boxes and commonize themselves.

Do not commonize yourself.

ok i'm tired and you must be too. so bye